Only you can know what kind of environment makes you happy – this is the underlying principle of the KonMari Method. In the KonMari Method of organizing and tidying, your feelings are the standard for decision making – specifically, knowing what sparks joy. You’ve probably heard “Discard anything you haven’t used in two years,” or “Every time you buy something new, get rid of something old.” To determine this when tidying, the key is to pick up each object one at a time, and ask yourself quietly, “Does this spark joy?” Pay attention to how your body responds. Joy is personal, so everyone will experience it differently; Marie describes it as “…a little thrill, as if the cells in your body are slowly rising.”
In the last week, very little caused the cells in my body to rise. I didn't really know how joyless I was feeling until I saw a puddle if bright pink flower petals in a circle on the ground around a tree. I was driving home from dropping Peter off at school when I saw it, a soulsucking sludge through phlegmatic Colombo traffic, the absolute worst aspect of the world returning and fits and spurts back to normal. And when I did, I felt a small spark of...something. My thoughts turned to spring. Specifically, I was reminded of New York City for some reason, the trees in Central Park, the day Elise and I got engaged a little later in the spring, early May, on my birthday. I was happy, content
My life is far, far from joyless, but this week was comparatively hard. Elise came down with dengue Friday a week ago. She was incapacitated for most of the week fighting a bone-crushing fever. It is sadly ironic, because we spent all of the entire last year locked down and quarantined to avoid catching one virus only to catch another. Not to mention, Elise is the most conscientious and fastidious of all of us when it comes to rye appliancatuon of mosquito repellent.
The same week all three kids headed back to school, except Peter somehow caught a cold at some point over the first two weeks he was back in class and gave it to Sam. How were they not going to catch the coronavirus if they could catch a cold at school? This and other thoughts kept me up at night.
I started the week driving them to and from school, a duty Elise and I would normally share. We quickly decided this would be unsustainable. Traffic was much worse once all the kids were back in school. With Elise out of commission, I was doing all the grocery shopping, making three meals a day, and trying to stay on top of my work. There's just not a lot of time for joy when one is so task oriented. It's all you can do to keep your head above water. I don't know how single parents do it.
As the week wore on, Clementine became more and more excited about Easter. Elise and I had totally forgotten about it and probably wouldn't had celebrated at all if it wasn't for Clementine. She was insanely excited, assigning to Easter the same level of anticipation usually reserved for Christmas. When did Easter become another Christmas? Wasn't one day of the year when you wake your parents before the sun rises by jumping up and down on the foot of their mattress enough?
Knowing it was up to me to bring the magic, I did manage to get the box of holiday decorations down by Friday afternoon. I picked up a smorgasbord of leftover candy from the commissary, and Elise and I stopped at the Japanese grocery for a few items. I got them each a small toy from the electronics store in Liberty Plaza. Then, at the last minute, decided not to put the new Minecraft cartridge in their Easter basket.
The trip to Liberty Plaza itself, a four-story mall squeezed between a parking garage and the vegetable market, was a chore. It's not a mall as one might think of a mall in the Western sense, but more like an indoor market. The stores are actually stalls, mostly very small and only large enough to accommodate one or two shoppers, and the corridor between stalls is as narrow as your shoulders are broad. Two people standing abreast of one another would find it difficult to pass. It did have escalators though (I can't remember if they ran or not) and a KFC.
As I drove up to the mall, I entered a long queue of cars waiting to pull into the parking garage. The BMW in front of me pulled out of the line and drove around. I followed him, assuming the car or lorry in front of him had stalled or stopped for some reason. This is not out of the ordinary. Cars and tuk-tuks stop in the middle of the road for no apparent reason all the time, completely unaware or nonplussed someone could plow into them from behind at any moment.
But as I reached the booth and guard arm to the parking garage, I was met by a uniformed security guard wagging his finger at me. I rolled my window down. "There is a line!" He yelled at me.
He was right. There was a line. But this is Sri Lanka. No one. Ever. EVER. Stays in the line.
I couldn't argue with him. It would have been completely pointless and there was no way I could not come out looking like an ugly foreigner. "You are wrong!" He yelled at me, taking great pleasure in having the opportunity to do so. The BMW in front of me and the lorry behind me were also not in line.
Easter morning, the kids hunted the dozen or so Easter eggs I had haphazardly and half-heartedly hidden.
We had string and egg hoppers, daal, chicken curry, cashew curry, and pol sambal for breakfast, then drove to the beach. It was Elise's first time out of the house except to get blood drawn in over a week. We stopped at the pool on the way home for a quick swim. Elise made a smoothie for lunch. Peter heated up a Cup O Noodles he got in his Easter basket. I took Sam fishing.
He caught a fish. A small one. That sparked joy, too.